Today we are going to talk about the most amazing part of the vagina; the clitoris (“clit”).  I have had my fair share of lovers who have come in and out of my bedroom, and it is amazing to me the percentage of them that fumble around like a drunken spider monkey around the most important of the vagina parts.  It doesn’t take the brain of Einstein to understand that the clit is the most sensitive part of the vagina, and therefore should be the area of focus and pampering when going down on a woman.

Men…you can kiss us, talk dirty to us, and fuck us madly, but until you stimulate the clit just right, you are more likely to make a “hole in one” on a par 3 hole (1 in 12,500 by the way) than make a woman orgasm.  Back in college I had a boyfriend who was able to hit the “joy button” just right with his fingers and tongue, and he always had me screaming and begging for more.  Since then, I can’t help but always compare other men to him.  So guys, do you want to establish the high benchmark by which the women in your life compare other men to, or do you want to be just another bumbling donkey in regards to a women’s vagina parts?

I think I know your answer, so let’s start with some basics….

The clitoris is the bud-like area towards the top opening of the vagina.  You can stare at our vagina for a long time, and still miss it.  It is very small, and can range anywhere from 1/8 to 3/8 of an inch long.  However, despite its small size it has thousands of nerve endings, much like the head of a man’s penis.

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Stimulating the clit is a lot like giving someone a back rub.  It may feel fantastic at first, but if you don’t put some variation into your technique the stimulation will become painful and numb.  Painful and numb is not what we are aiming for!

To start, you need get us into the mood.  Kiss our neck and lips, and then move down below.  Gently retract the clit hood until the clit is partially exposed and then quickly dart your tongue across it.  You want to repeat this quickly and gently, pausing between each flick of the tongue.  Also, make sure you vary the direction of the tongue flicks.  When she starts begging for more attention to the area, release the hood and start applying more pressure until climax. One tip is to make sure you don’t blow on the clit as this will only dry it out and make contact more painful.

Besides using your tongue, using your fingers is perfectly acceptable and can be very pleasurable to the woman.  Simply use your fingers to gently massage the clit.  Don’t squish it or apply too much pressure, unless of course she requests this.  Again, variation is key so rub side to side and also in diagonal strokes.

Just remember, take your time!  Men are always in a rush.  You need to let the pot simmer.  If you do things right and take your time the pot will eventually boil over!

Also, remember that communication is key.  Observe carefully how your partner responds to each of the techniques and listen if she tells you to do something differently.  In other words, don’t act like you have your head buried in the sports section of the newspaper.

Okay that’s it.  Very simple stuff.  You are now an expert on the “clitoris”, the nerve center of the vagina parts!

 

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